Sunday, June 14, 2009

apparently bad parenting is where it's at - (aka mom's are to blame again)

According to the following CNN video segment:

http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2009/06/12/am.costello.bad.parents.cnn

and according to Ayelet Waldman who wrote her story in:

Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace

bad parenting is apparently all the rage. The point of the CNN piece (and I suppose Waldman's book, though I haven't read it) is that parents (mothers primarily, and as usual) had over scheduled their kids to death and now because of a number of factors (rebellion, the economy, the ominous swing of the cultural pendulum) parents (read: mothers) are now going to the other extreme...letting their kids have free time (gasp), encouraging them to use their imaginations (gasp again) and engaging in forbidden behaviors (the article quotes a mommy blog here where the author admits to leaving her children unattended in the bathtub, spanking them, etc. - it's the end of the world as we know it).

Mommies can't win. Just being a regular old mom, the kind that does the best she can, sometimes better and sometimes worse, is now to be referred to as "bad mothering." Right now it's all about the media buzz words but historically it will come to be known as the era when mothers rebelled against what they knew they "should" be doing. Dammit! Why can't we just let mother's be?

I have more to say (no surprise there) but I'm going to rebel against the pressure to be a bad mother who ignores her children to pontificate on the issue of the day to go be a regular old mother who occasionally takes her kids to play at the pool.

No comments: